The future of women will be the sisterhood of the natural community which sets the rules for all within the natural community. This naturally polices sexuality as well but also ensures sexual pathways for all within the natural community. Again a natural community is 150 individuals plus or minus twenty or so living in easy physical contact.
The male community presents the potential for both interactive involvement with the sisterhood and for the assembly of operative packs of around six for the purpose of handling larger tasks. All this is governed by the rule of twelve often referred to as the elders for lack of a formal structure and often mostly those who are old in years. Obviously though this does not need to be so.
Thus men do not serve women or the sisterhood but the needs of the community as their first loyalty while the sisterhood's first loyalty is to the children and social order itself. The rule of twelve serves to empower spokesmen or women as needed.
The separation of this natural dispensation came about as a consequence of creating larger artificial polities that produced virtual communities rather than natural communities and the application of hierarchy to govern what was now much more complex to govern. The rule of twelve was suppressed by hierarchic individuals desperate to protect their authority and this naturally led to a patriarchal system or some variation such as a matriarchy which is the exact same thing.
Add the invention of money to this and along comes slavery as a primary source of wealth.
The way forward will be ultimately through the natural community and the coalescence of a community code of behavior that preserves individual sovereignty..
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Acknowledging and Overcoming Masculine Trauma Through Patriarchy
March 13th, 2018
https://wakeup-world.com/2018/03/13/acknowledging-and-overcoming-masculine-trauma-through-patriarchy/?
Patriarchy is damaging to men as well as to women.
As we awaken on an individual and
collective level and the old structures and paradigms that dominated our
world begin to collapse, we have an unprecedented opportunity to take
an eagle eye’s view of the human condition and evaluate the underlying
forces that have shaped us into our current disconnection from the Earth
and each other.
This expanded view gives us powerful tools and perspectives for our own healing.
While the traumas suffered by women and
the feminine during our recent past have been clearly recognised and
described, the suffering of men and the masculine have remained more
invisible. It’s time to shed light on these so that men can move forward
and recover their divine masculine light.
The dominance of patriarchy
An over-arching human experience for the
majority of us in “civilised cultures” has been the dominance of
patriarchy. A common definition of patriarchy is “a system of
interrelated social structures which allow men to exploit women.”
Patriarchal social systems have been present in Asia and Europe for over
6,000 years and many more parts of the world adopted patriarchal
systems of rule through invasion and imperialism.
The historical sexual exploitation and
political oppression of women within patriarchy has been the key focus
of the women’s movement, which has and continues to play the vital role
of helping women to reclaim their political power and rights, and
rewrite their role in society as powerful, free and creative beings
whose minds, spirits and bodies are their own.
This is creating a legacy of powerful
women who are embracing their spiritual gifts and becoming leaders in
awakening and change. But many of these women are aware that their men
“have not woken up yet” and I would like to explore why men may have
trouble awakening — and I believe this relates to an unacknowledged
level of patriarchal trauma that men hold at a collective and
multi-generational level.
Man as a victim of patriarchy
In the system of patriarchy, men have
ostensibly been “on top”, with greater legal rights, political powers
and control over their women and children — so it’s easy to associate
the patriarchal order with a social system that has genuinely benefited
men at all levels.
However, the reality of patriarchy is
that men have also been traumatised, oppressed and exploited — but in
largely different ways. If we look at world history, the great majority
of men have been subject to multiple levels of trauma and oppression
which include being forced into slavery or serfdom, being disconnected
from their ancestral lands, and being forced to fight in violent and
bloody wars to name just a few.
In fact, the very nature of patriarchy
is that it has benefited only a very few men in vastly unequal positions
of leadership and power, generally men representing a deeply distorted
version of masculinity that bases its power in ruthlessness, greed and
violence.
There are three key areas of patriarchal
trauma in men that I would like to bring attention to:
disenfranchisement, war and slavery.
Disenfranchisement
Virtually all men have suffered the
trauma of “fundamental disenfranchisement”, which I would define as
being stripped of a fundamental relationship to the natural order,
including one’s connection to the Earth, and right to be self-governing
as a sovereign being.
Disenfranchisement trauma is
particularly apparent in the men of cultures that have been more
recently stripped of their land and cultural heritage, such as the
Native communities of North America and Australia.
However, it can be argued that through
repeated invasion and wars over thousands of years, displacement
disenfranchisement happened far earlier for European men. It is these
same Western men that forged imperialism and colonialism, thus
projecting out and replicating their unacknowledged disenfranchisement
traumas on those who still enjoyed a sovereign connection to the Earth.
Now the trauma of disenfranchisement is
reaching a peak, with the waves of forced migration flooding across our
world as fewer and fewer places on Earth are safe politically, or
inhabitable and productive ecologically.
The trauma of disenfranchisement is the
loss of belonging to the Earth, along with the culture, values,
ceremonies and practices which bind us in a loving connection to our
Mother. This loss of belonging creates the trauma of survival fear,
where the basics of life (land, water, food) cannot be counted on, and
one must labour to survive.
Disenfranchisement is deeply wounding
for man, who needs to be in a trusting and tender relationship to the
Feminine (through the Earth in this case) in order to feel his core
identity, grounding and belonging in life.
War
Generations of men have suffered at the
front lines of war. Not fighting for their individual or even community
level sovereign rights, but as slave-soldiers obliged to fight for a
hierarchical political class without being able to question the
rightness of war and battle itself.
To take the example of Western Europe
alone, war has figured almost continuously in Western Europe in the last
7000 years. There include violent land and border invasions, border
wars, empire-building wars, armed resistances, and most recently our
World Wars. World War I alone robbed Western Europe of a generation of
young men, who were brutally conscripted — and in some cases forced to
fight on despite incredible levels of psychological trauma.
The physical and emotional effects of
repeated forced warfare are difficult to comprehend for those who have
not experienced this first hand. In contemporary society we are now
recognising the post-traumatic effects of armed combat (for example
PTSD) — but for thousands of years this kind of trauma was not
recognised or treated. This accumulates along masculine genetic and
ancestral lines so that men who are not actually subject to war in the
lifetime are still carrying the burden of this trauma as passed onto
them from their fathers and grandfathers.
Being forced into violence is deeply
wounding to the masculine, who in his divine nature and his mature
warrior energy, wishes to protect and provide for his human community.
Repeated violence, apart from the physical scars it leaves, creates deep
fractures at an energetic and emotional level and forces his to
disassociate from his deep emotional nature in order to survive.
Slavery
Men, women and children have been
enslaved within many cultures, geographical regions and timelines. At
the beginning of the nineteenth century an estimated three-quarters of
all people alive were trapped in bondage against their will, either in
some form of slavery or serfdom. Although slavery is no longer legal,
human trafficking remains an international problem and an estimated
25-40 million men, women and children are enslaved today. (Given the extent of corruption that enables illegal human trafficking networks, this estimate is likely a very conservative one. — Editor.)
Slavery is alive and well in other more subtle forms including debt slavery
(the debt carried by individuals through mortgages and other debts
underpins many advanced economies) and the impact of our historical and
current slavery is deep and multi-layered. Historically, men have
carried the burden of economic slavery in its overt and subtle forms and
often have borne in silence the frustration of being chained to jobs,
companies, debt and other pressures that rob them of the time and
freedom to express themselves and their spirits in more joyful and
authentic ways.
While in patriarchal societies men may
have “lorded it” over women, the great majority of them have had to
serve a greater “lord” thorough different kinds of bonded labour and
allegiance.
Slavery trauma has robbed Man of his
feeling of sovereignty, self-worth and empowered freedom. It has also
created a deep sense of being trapped — obliged to labour for another
man’s profit until the end of his days or until he can buy freedom.
This creates a deep sense of shame and endless frustration.
How masculine patriarchal trauma shows up
Patriarchal trauma lies deep in the
great majority of men alive today. These scars run deep and are
collective, multi generational and even exist through past-life
imprints. By multi-generational trauma I mean inherited trauma that
might be inherited genetically, and emotionally through behavioural
templates from father to son all the way down the ancestral line.
By past-life trauma I mean trauma that
for some reason has been carried through at a soul level so that the
effects of that trauma in other lives are still present in a person at
the physical and emotional level of their being in the now of this
lifetime. This phenomenon may be better known to spiritual healers and
shamans but is very real. I have met many men who hold the scars of
their past lives in their bodies and only begin to heal when these
layers energy and are healed.
Emotional denial, disassociation and confusion
The trauma that men carry is often so
deep that it lies out of sight. Given that for men, emotional expression
and sharing can be associated with weakness, and that emotional
repression is inherent as a social norm in many patriarchal cultures,
taking the first step to admit that there is trauma in the first place
is a difficult one.
Many men do not realise that they even
have a problem. Since their denial and emotional suppression have been
normalised, and no-one even notices them, men can have a difficult time
bringing the necessary awareness to their emotional traumas in the first
place.
This can lead to confusion —
particularly the men who have become “successful” at a material level,
and who “have it all” — yet are feeling the emptiness, loneliness and
disconnection at their core that is symptomatic of their unacknowledged
trauma.
Compensation
The traumatised man, driven by his
unconsciously held pain and and inexplicable feeling of rootlessness,
emptiness, and shame, will look compound his suppression and find solace
in addictions. These include sex, alcohol, drugs and other highs that
momentarily fill the gaps and emptiness created by trauma.
An unconsciously traumatised man may
also obsess with wealth and material accumulation, which are obvious
ways to feel safe and powerful and help protect his from his feelings of
unsafely and rootlessness.
However, a more subtle trauma need is
that for status and recognition in spheres of life such as academia and
politics and other highly competitive professional spheres.
The Wolf of Wall Street,
the memoir of Jordan Belfort, is a wonderful example of three above
mentioned trauma compensations taken to extremes — and all of us can
name visible examples of traumatised men who are hiding behind their
addictions, status and wealth.
Emotional projection
The forcing and coercion of men into
violence and slavery has led to deeply held feelings of inadequacy,
guilt and shame that can barely be acknowledged, the are so painful.
This leads to the next symptom — of anger, rage and projection.
The traumatised man may project through
obvious means such as blaming and shaming those around him, or
justifying his violence, sexual violence and abuse.
Projection protects man from the pain
deep within his own emotional centre, and focussed out onto the external
world of his workmates, boss, partner and children who must carry the
blame. These behaviours compound his isolation and drive guilt and shame
deeper into him.
The rapist and the domestic abuser are
two tragic examples of the projecting man who is transferring his trauma
to woman (or the feminine) so that she is obliged to hold his trauma
for him and with him. He has forgotten that his true archetype is to
protect and heal the feminine and has disconnected so deeply from his
own feeling of sacredness that he can no longer perceive it in women.
How men can help themselves
Owning the trauma
One of the most empowering things a man ever do is to stand up and admit that he is broken. This step is epitomised by James Greenshields,
an Australian soldier suffering from PTSD and whose family life was
falling apart, who finally broke his shell of masculine emotional
repression and pride to admit he could not function. From there he
healed himself and now holds space for other men to heal.
Men worldwide need to break the old
conditioning of “boys don’t cry” and hold a space for themselves to feel
deeply what they are holding. They need permission to break down so
that they can break through into emotional freedom from the multilayered
trauma that has held them down for literally millennia.
Awakening the emotional warrior
It is nature of the true mature man to
also be an emotional warrior — able to feel even the deepest and darkest
emotions in order to transform these through the inner alchemy of his
strength, self-acceptance and self-love.
Men need to learn the skills and tools
necessary to heal and transform their emotions and to understand that
emotional self-management is the key to authentic masculine power.
I have seen men who are moving into
their emotional warrior archetype sit and sob out their pain, holding a
clear space for themselves as they allow emotions to release. They
acknowledge they are doing real Men’s Work — not only for themselves but
for the collective and for all their ancestors.
Awakening divine masculine service3
One of the most empowering things a man
can do is consciously restore himself to his true Divine Masculine role —
to serve and protect the Feminine. This manifests primarily by being of
service to the Mother Earth, and humanity.
Man also needs to rewrite his power in
relation to women. When men heal themselves and purify the suffering and
trauma of their ancestors, they restore their deep divine masculine
healing energy which is literally designed to act as a light in the
darkness. Man’s sexual energy is designed to penetrate woman’s sexual
mystery with sublime light and create the deepest healing possible. This
is the true expression of masculine power in male-female relationships.
Finally, Man needs to understand that
all of his masculine powers of intellect and material manifestation are
in service to the deepest intuitive truth of his soul. By breaking free
from slavery, he is once again free to be true to himself and embody the
leadership, transformation and healing that is so needed in our world.
Resources:
Joan Marler, 2006, “The Beginnings of Patriarchy in Europe: Reflections on the Kurgan Theory of Marija Gimbutas”
Gordon, April A. (1996). “Transforming capitalism and patriarchy: gender and development in Africa”. p. 18
Horobin, David F. (2002) “The Madness of Adam and Eve: How Schizophrenia Shaped Humanity”
Belfort, Jordan, (2007) “The Wolf of Wall Street”
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