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Wednesday, January 30, 2019
8 Different Types of Love According to the Ancient Greeks
I was somewhat aware of this critical analysis, but only in part and never understood it as a useful working framework. This should be shared with our youth as a matter of course, not least since all will abruptly be exposed to Eros and experience usually unwanted turmoil.
Putting labels on things is always helpful if only as a starting point for a discussion.
I do think that this needs to be put through the academic grind and introduced into our language as well preparatory to entering it into our educational system. It is important and seriously useful and not particularly demanding in time, but always timely..
8 Different Types of Love According to the Ancient Greeks
There are many paths in life. But the longest of them all is the path to the heart. If you resist this path, you will take lifetimes to find it again. If you surrender and embrace it, you’ll be home.
We’ve all been blinded by the blanket of
emotions that comes from falling down the precipice of union into love.
While we only have one word for it, the ancient Greeks in their pursuit
of wisdom and self-understanding, found eight different varieties of
love that we all experience at some point.
When we understand the different types
of love out there, we can become conscious of how deep our connection is
with ourselves and the other people in our lives.
8 Different Types of Love
What different types of love are you currently experiencing and how are they impacting your life?
1. “Eros” or Erotic Love
The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of sexual passion and desire.
The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be
dangerous and frightening as it involves a “loss of control” through
the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is a passionate and intense form
of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings.
Eros is an exulted and beautifully idealistic love that in the hearts of the spiritually mature can be used to “recall knowledge of beauty” (as Socrates put it) through Tantra and spiritual sex. But when misguided, eros can be misused, abused and indulged in, leading to impulsive acts and broken hearts.
Eros is a primal and powerful fire that
burns out quickly. It needs its flame to be fanned through one of the
deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects
of love, that is, personal infatuation and physical pleasure.
2. “Philia” or Affectionate Love
The second type of love is philia, or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued philia far above eros because it was considered a love between equals.
Plato felt that physical attraction was not a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, “without physical attraction.” Philia is a type of love that is felt among friends who’ve endured hard times together.
[ our term is comradeship - arclein ]
As Aristotle put it, philia is a “dispassionate virtuous love” that
is free from the intensity of sexual attraction. It often involves the
feelings of loyalty among friends, camaraderie among teammates, and the
sense of sacrifice for your pack.
3. “Storge” or Familiar Love
Although storge closely resembles philia in
that it is a love without physical attraction, storge is primarily to
do with kinship and familiarity. Storge is a natural form of affection
that often flows between parents and their children, and children for
Storge love can even be found among
childhood friends that is later shared as adults. But although storge is
a powerful form of love, it can also become an obstacle on our
spiritual paths, especially when our family or friends don’t align with
or support our journey.
4. “Ludus” or Playful Love
Although ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in
it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful
form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers.
Ludus is that feeling we have when we go
through the early stages of falling in love with someone, e.g. the
fluttering heart, flirting, teasing, and feelings of euphoria.
Playfulness in love is an essential
ingredient that is often lost in long-term relationships. Yet
playfulness is one of the secrets to keeping the childlike innocence of
your love alive, interesting and exciting.
5. “Mania” or Obsessive Love
Mania love is a type of love that leads a
partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there
is an imbalance between eros and ludus.
To those who experience mania, love
itself is a means of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their own
value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and
be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can
become possessive and jealous lovers, feeling as though they desperately
“need” their partners.
If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency.
6. “Pragma” or Enduring Love
Pragma is a love that has aged, matured
and developed over time. It is beyond the physical, it has transcended
the casual, and it is a unique harmony that has formed over time.
You can find pragma in married
couples who’ve been together for a long time, or in friendships that
have endured for decades. Unfortunately pragma is a type of love that is
not easily found. We spend so much time and energy trying to find love
and so little time in learning how to maintain it.
Unlike the other types of love, pragma
is the result of effort on both sides. It’s the love between people
who’ve learned to make compromises, have demonstrated patience and
tolerance to make the relationship work.
7. “Philautia” or Self Love
The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune as is the case with Narcissism.
Instead, philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It
shares the Buddhist philosophy of “self-compassion” which is the deep
understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and
feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to
others. As Aristotle put it, “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.”
You cannot share what you do not have.
If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anyone else either. The
only way to truly be happy is to find that unconditional love for
yourself. Only once you learn to love and understand yourself, will you
be ready to search for the spiritual freedom of the Self.
8. “Agape” or Selfless Love
The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape, or selfless unconditional love.
This type of love is not the sentimental
outpouring that often passes as love in our society. It has nothing to
do with the condition-based type of love that our sex-obsessed culture
tries to pass as love.
Agape is what some call spiritual love.
It is an unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, a boundless
compassion, an infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as “mett?” or
“universal loving kindness.” It is the purest form of love that is free
from desires and expectations, and loves regardless of the flaws and
shortcomings of others.
Agape is the love that is felt for that
which we intuitively know as the divine truth: the love that accepts,
forgives and believes for our greater good.
Thanks to the ancient Greeks, we can
learn from all the different types of love in our lives. Because
of these distinctions, we can learn that in order to truly enjoy eros we must also search for greater depths through philia and cultivate ludus, avoiding mania as our relationships mature. It’s through these efforts that we’ll find pragma in our soulmate or twin flame relationships.
Finally, through the power philautia and agape we
can come to understand how amazing our human hearts really are. Our
hearts are the only things in the universe that grow larger the more
they give to others.