Excellent guidance. All parents need to heed this, except that assumes all parents actually read. That is the real core of the problem, is it not? That is why I champion the natural Community and its capacity to establish best practice for all children with the human resources to hand to make it work.
My own three all completed studies in engineering at UBC and are now well ensconced in rewarding careers. They all were without need, but still learned to grow up hungry but not for food. You cannot ask for more.
Yes natural talent is wonderful but never sufficient. A completely untalented person can simply grow a field of potatoes and live well; enough. Such a person can listen to music and be happy. Such a person can have friends and family and why not?
All of us required nurture and some of us were also lucky. None of that took birthright or money.
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Science Says the Most Successful Kids Have Parents Who Do These 9 Things
Chances are, there’s something on this list you're missing.
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Much has been written about the attributes of high-achieving adults, and what makes them different from everyone else. But if you're a parent, a more compelling question may be: "What can I do to make sure my kids succeed in life?" Here's what researchers say.
1. Don't tell them they can be anything they want.
According a survey of 400 teenagers,
conducted by market research agency C+R Research, young Americans
aren't interested in doing the work that will need to be done in the
years to come. Instead, they aspire to be musicians, athletes, or video
game designers, even though these kinds of jobs only comprise 1 percent
of American occupations. In reality, jobs in health care or in construction trades
will be golden in future decades. Why not steer them into well-paying
professions in which there will be a huge shortage of workers?
2. Eat dinner as a family.
According to a nonprofit organization
operating out of Harvard University, kids who eat with their families
roughly five days a week exhibit lower levels of substance abuse, teen
pregnancy, obesity, and depression. They also have higher grade-point
averages, better vocabularies, and more self-esteem.
3. Enforce no-screen time.
Researchers
have found that the brains of little kids can be permanently altered
when they spend too much time using tablets and smartphones.
Specifically, the development of certain abilities is impeded, including
focus and attention, vocabulary, and social skills. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics
(AAP) says children younger than 18 months should have no screen time
at all, other than video-chatting. For kids ages two to five, it
recommends limiting screen time to one hour a day. For older kids, it's a
matter of making sure media doesn't take the place of adequate sleep,
exercise, and social interaction. The AAP also says parents should make
the dinner table, the car, and bedrooms media-free zones.
4. Work outside the home.
There are certainly familial benefits to having a stay-at-home mother, but researchers at Harvard Business School
have found that when moms work outside the home, their daughters are
more likely to be employed themselves, hold supervisory roles, and make
more money than peers whose mothers did not have careers.
5. Make them work.
In a 2015 TED Talk, Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult
and the former dean of freshman at Stanford University, cites the
Harvard Grant Study, which found that the participants who achieved the
greatest professional success did chores as a child.
6. Delay gratification.
The classic Marshmallow Experiment
of 1972 involved placing a marshmallow in front of a young child, with
the promise of a second marshmallow if he or she could refrain from
eating the squishy blob while a researcher stepped out of the room for
15 minutes. Follow-up studies over the next 40 years found that the
children who were able to resist the temptation to eat the marshmallow
grew up to be people with better social skills, higher test scores, and a
lower incidence of substance abuse. They also turned out to be less
obese and better able to deal with stress. To help kids build this
skill, train them to have habits that must be accomplished every
day—even when they don't feel like doing them.
"Top performers in every field—athletes, musicians, CEOs, artists—are all more consistent than their peers," writes James Clear,
an author and speaker who studies the habits of successful people.
"They show up and deliver day after day while everyone else gets bogged
down with the urgencies of daily life and fights a constant battle
between procrastination and motivation."
7. Read to them.
Researchers
at the New York University School of Medicine have found that babies
whose parents read to them have better language, literacy, and early
reading skills four years later before starting elementary school. And
kids who like books when they're little grow into people who read for
fun later on, which has its own set of benefits. That's according to Dr.
Alice Sullivan, who uses the British Cohort Study to track various
aspects of 17,000 people in the U.K. "We compared children from the same
social backgrounds who achieved similar tested abilities at ages five
and 10, and discovered that those who frequently read books at age 10
and more than once a week when they were 16 had higher test results than
those who read less," she writes for The Guardian. "In other words, reading for pleasure was linked to greater intellectual progress, in vocabulary, spelling, and mathematics."
8. Encourage them to travel.
The Student and Youth Travel Association (SYTA) surveyed 1,432 U.S. teachers who credit international travel, in particular, with affecting students in a myriad of good ways:
- Desire to travel more (76%)
- Increased tolerance of other cultures and ethnicities (74%)
- Increased willingness to know/learn/explore (73%)
- Increased willingness to try different foods (70%)
- Increased independence, self-esteem, and confidence (69%)
- More intellectual curiosity (69%)
- Increased tolerance and respectfulness (66%)
- Better adaptability and sensitivity (66%)
- Being more outgoing (51%)
- Better self-expression (51%)
- Increased attractiveness to college admissions (42%)
If sending your son or daughter abroad or bringing them with you
overseas isn't feasible, take heart. The survey also asked teachers
about domestic travel and found similar benefits for students.
9. Let them fail.
While it may seem counterintuitive, it's one of the best things a
parent can do. According to Dr. Stephanie O'Leary, a clinical
psychologist specializing in neuropsychology and author of Parenting in the Real World: The Rules Have Changed,
failure is good for kids on several levels. First, experiencing failure
helps your child learn to cope, a skill that's certainly needed in the
real world. It also provides him or her with the life experience needed
to relate to peers in a genuine way. Being challenged also instills the
need for hard work and sustained efforts, and also demonstrates that
these traits are valuable even without the blue ribbon, gold star, or
top score. Over time, children who have experienced defeat will build
resilience and be more willing to attempt difficult tasks and activities
because they are not afraid to fail. And, she says, rescuing your child
sends the message that you don't trust him or her. "Your willingness to
see your child struggle communicates that you believe they are capable
and that they can handle any outcome, even a negative one," she says.
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