The advent of true mass culture introduced extreme imaturity into our social structures and solutions and we are still struggling to reshape and understand what happened and to overcome the worst aspects.
A large part of this failure has been the elimination of a physical community for the natural community in our urban environment. This impacts heaviest on women whereas men must go out and establish their own independent social group in order to properly function and succeed. That also tells us how to solve it.
In the meantime this adresses the natural evolution of a marriage which has been badly disturbed through a combination of flawed media memes and flawed expectations and the honoring of unrealistic examples.
You do not build a culture on the basis of what works for the exceptional.
Politically Incorrect Advice for Young Men (Updated)
Thursday, February 26, 2015 5:21
Things I wish I knew when I was 21.
“Women show love: by self-surrender. Avoid the four-C’s. Women who compete, control, criticize or complain. Avoid women who are overachievers or neurotic. Don’t get hung up on unavailable women. They’re not as special as they think. Choose a wife who complements you and is a good companion. Choose one who will be a good mother.“
Revised From Nov. 20, 2004
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
My life was dysfunctional until the age of 50 partly because I accepted the feminist assumptions purveyed by the mass media.
I never imagined the financial elite is engaged in a war to destabilize society by trashing heterosexual roles. This hateful government attack on the traditional family continues unabated today. The purpose is to create a totalitarian New World Order where people are isolated, and mind control replaces jackboot.
Like millions of men, I was let “off the hook” by sexual liberation and feminism. Instead of becoming a husband and father, I was free to have sex and search for my “identity.”
Often sex and identity were confused. I didn’t understand that men mature and find direction and purpose by assuming the responsibility of marriage and family. As a result, I suffered from arrested emotional development and missed my opportunity to have a family.
What follows is an antidote to elite feminist propaganda. I don’t want young men to make the same mistakes i did.
1. The creation of a strong and loving family is perhaps the highest goal to which a man can aspire. This is the natural process by which men (and women) grow over a lifetime. This is how we find love and intimacy. It isn’t for everyone but it is the path to happiness for most.
2. Stop listening to the media, your peer group or parents. “Trust thy self,” Emerson says in Self Reliance (1841) “Whoso would be a man, must be a nonconformist.” What are your instincts telling you? For example, I always knew I wanted to rule my own roost but feminism prohibited this. Obey your instincts.
3. Make work (not women) your passion. Work is the backbone of a man. Men gain self-confidence from performing a task well, and receiving reward and recognition. Women may try to come between a man and his work but don’t let them. Don’t let anyone or anything thwart your gift. Women do not respect men who make them their first priority. Your work will keep you on course and help you avoid temptation.
4. Don’t mistake sexual attraction for love. Our society makes female beauty and sex into a phony religion in order to distract and manipulate us. Sex and beauty soon become tedious. The magic ends. Do not marry someone based on sexual infatuation. Real love develops over a long period of time and is based on mutual dependence, trust and caring.
5. Do not put beautiful women on a pedestal. They is no relationship between a woman’s appearance and her character. Beautiful women are flawed like everyone else. They’re more trouble because of their sense of entitlement.
6. Never show weakness. In courtship, don’t appear eager. Women interpret this as weakness. Keep your dignity. Nothing earns her respect quicker than rejection. Men think they will be loved for their sterling qualities. This is not so. Women are looking for men who make them feel secure. They want men who exude confidence. If you’re insecure, remember there are many woman more insecure than you.
7. The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married. Sex without love is degrading and dehumanizing. Sexual liberation is not wanting sex (because you have it.) Sex is used to distract and sell us. People wouldn’t be sexually frustrated if they got married at a young age as they did in the 1950′s and started families. Women should marry and have kids before going to university; men after beginning their careers.
8. Do not marry a woman who doesn’t make you and her family her first priority. Do you want to share your wife with her boss? If you have an aim in life, why marry someone who doesn’t support it? Or has a competing agenda? In the marketplace of love, men have the power. Our fertility lasts three times as long as theirs. We are the buyers. There are plenty of fine women, especially if we look abroad.
9. Real women are self-effacing. They put their husbands and their children before themselves. This is how women show love: by self-surrender. Avoid the four-C’s. Women who compete, control, criticize or complain. Avoid women who are overachievers or neurotic. Don’t get hung up on unavailable women. They’re aren’t as special as they wish you to think. Choose a wife who complements you and is a good companion. Choose one who will be a good mother.
10. Being possessive is natural. A man wants to possess a woman. Women want to be possessed. In the act of love, we say a man “possesses” a woman. Total love equals total possession. This is not the same as domination. It is a partnership based on mutual trust and respect. My wife does not share my political views or read my website.
11. Your seed (semen) is your unique spirit and essence. Would you entrust it to a vulgar or mediocre woman just because she is attractive? Ideally we would only have sex with a woman we would want to mother our children. This is why sex was reserved for marriage.
12. Children represent your organic growth. They are an extension of yourself. The media is doing a number on us. How often do we see children portrayed in a truly positive light? As the angels they often are? We are rich in proportion to the things we love. The highest love is between husband and wife, and parents and children.
13. Don’t waste your time “looking for God.” We find God by serving and obeying Him. God speaks through our sense of right and wrong, and ideals of absolute truth, justice and love. We are not men if we refuse to sacrifice our “selves” to God ( i.e. obey) . Truth is liberating even if the truth is about our present bondage.
14. You are not the voice in your head. We cohabit with a monkey. Don’t be upset or fooled by his often vulgar and debased thoughts. They are not you. Your job is to train the money by training and controlling the mind.
Much of this was common knowledge when I was a child in the 1950′s. Over the years, the elite has gradually undermined our understanding of the natural order by promoting homosexuality which includes sexual liberation and lesbianism in the guise of feminism.
An establishment that sows fear and confusion between the sexes, and promotes promiscuity and family breakdown does not have the country’s best interest at heart.
Many of our feminist political, cultural and economic “leaders” are moral whores, dupes, traitors and often worse. We resist them by building strong healthy families and giving our children wholesome values.